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Hey, OP. Sorry you’re going through this. Sounds really tough.
Anyway, ollieoxen is right about the Florida HOA Act. But you did mention other problems in your community, too. Even in a developer-controlled HOA, the developer should still uphold the fiduciary duty of the board. That means following the governing documents, which usually includes holding regular meetings and allowing owners to attend them. This is even required by law under Section 720.303(2)(b) of the Florida Statutes (for homeowner’s associations).
If you can’t get a hold of the governing documents (which your developer should ABSOLUTELY give you), you can try going to your county recorder’s office and asking them for a copy. The association’s declaration is typically filed there as a requirement.
Good luck!